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I Have Notes Nicole Chung

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Welcome to I Have Notes.

A newsletter in which Nicole shares conversations and essays, explores the books she’s reading, discusses the craft of writing, and interacts with readers in an advice column focused on friendships, family relationships, and creative work and goal-setting.

You Do Not Always Have to Say Yes
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You Do Not Always Have to Say Yes

I used to feel that I had to say yes to everything, grab every opportunity because there might not be another. I’m finally learning how to say no.
Not a Drill
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Not a Drill

This is what passes for normal in this country. Every day, our children enter their schools and assume a risk we cannot shield them from.
A Choice in Name Only

A Choice in Name Only

We shouldn’t pretend that adoption is right or possible for every pregnant person who cannot or does not want to parent.
On Grief and Reentry

On Grief and Reentry

I’m learning how hard it is to imagine or believe in any version of “normal” when you are grieving.

I’m an author, writer, and editor whose work has appeared in The New York Times, The New York Times Magazine, GQ, Time, The Guardian, and Vulture, among other publications; I also wrote a weekly advice column for Slate. My first book, All You Can Ever Know, was a national best seller and a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award. Previously, I led the digital editorial team at the independent publisher Catapult, and before that I was the managing editor of The Toast. I’m now working on two more books and earnestly look forward to being able to tell you which will be published first.

If you have a question you’d like me to answer in my advice column, please send it to ihavenotes@theatlantic.com. You can ask for advice on any subject, though I’ll be keeping a particular eye out for questions related to friendships, family relationships, and creative work and goal-setting. By submitting a letter, you are agreeing to let The Atlantic use it—in part or in full—and we may edit it for length and/or clarity. Letter writers’ names and emails will never be shared.

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